Jungle.Fever

Just gotta love contrast , i think it's beautiful well most people i know think it's beautiful. Two different worlds brought together through love , understanding , faith and trust. I think being in an interracial relationship must probably be the most difficult relationship there is speaking from experience.

The Culture difference , the families coming to terms with your relationship and even a language or cultural difference , having been in a mixed relationship has made a lot of people curious asking me so many question , is it true that white guys do this or that. 

I think it's not really weather his black or white it's really down to what kind of a person he is , people may automatically assume because he is white he will pay for the bill at the restaurant , he will buy you flowers he will be more affectionate etc. Basically he will treat you better then a brother will , hmmm well as i said you get African / Black men who are just as affectionate and as loving as white men are. 

If there is one thing I've learnt is fall in love with the person inside and out , interracial relationships work if he understands you and is willing to embrace your culture , if this is not the case then it won't work out. My ex was not willing to embrace the culture and wanted things to go his way or no way , which is a bit selfish which is also linked to his personality.     

Love is not just black and white nor is it like a straight strip , there are challenges in every relationship , but if you love someone so much you will be willing to do all you can to be with them , despite what others think or the the obstacles ahead. Love is also not for the faint hearted , it might not work out and if it does not it just simply was not meant to be.

The great thing about relationships , is you learn so much about about the other person you grow together , learn and experience from each other , a friend of mine Lucy once said : " Mixed race children are the combination of best of both worlds , you get two of the best DNA  genes fighting against each other." I thought to myself hmmm , this is actually so so true. 

Let's just focus on the relationship first before we can think of children , it's not a matter of the grass is greener on the other side , it's just a matter of interest , compatibility and unity. Be with someone who will lift you up as a person , who will complement you and work in harmony with you , and i need to learn this but a picture is worth 1000 words . You may see certain couples and wish wow i really wish that was me , ahhh they are so cute together , they look so happy , i wish that was me  i tend to do that a lot. 

STOP IT ! we all have a journey and they may be happy now but you have no idea what they had to go through to get to that happiness , people may seem in-sync in public , but when there's no audience we have no idea what really goes on. 

I believe the greatest love stories , are the ones where the couple has had to endure so much hardship and struggles , why you may ask ?  Because you have to fight for what you love , and after using all you have to fight for the love of your life when you finally get to be with that person it's liked , i worked so hard to be with him , I'm never letting him go again , never.

You learn to appreciate that person and the love , think "Romeo and Juliet" , how despite their families being constantly at war with one another , they were willing to do what ever it takes to be together , the notebook , something new all the soppy romantic movies people often complain about there is a message there behind every story is a lesson learnt.

Ask yourself next time what can i learn from this particular love story ?

God closes one door he opens another, never give up on love remember love is from God and he is the greatest Lover of your life , because he will never hurt you.

Bless.